This is the first Christmas in 8 years that I’ve spent single.
I have memories from throughout the years of girlfriends who were so sad to be single during the holidays & I never really understood it.. But I do remember feeling really sorry for them.
I’m going to be vulnerable & say that I was sort of scared for Christmas this year. I didn’t know how I was going to feel. I was nervous that I would feel empty, or even lost and lonely.
But in all honesty, it’s hasn’t been that bad. In fact, I’m content and even thankful.
& I want you to know why and how this is possible..
I learned a lot in the year of 2015, but there is one specific lesson I learned which I will without a doubt carry with me for the rest of my life.
2015 is the year where I learned that God is truly more than enough for me..
I worked Christmas Eve this year. I went home to an empty house, slept, and woke up early Christmas morning & headed back to work.
The weird thing is that I felt like I should be sad about this.. But somehow I wasn’t.
I feel content at where my life is right now.
& I think this is because God has brought my relationship with Him to a really beautiful place.
I can stand before you right now and honestly say.. That He is more than enough for me. He is more than enough to satisfy me.
I of course have hopes, wants, dreams, goals, & desires. But even if I never attain any of those things – my God is enough for me. Enough to satisfy me. More than enough to bring me a life of happiness.
At some point this past year, God worked in my heart & I stopped giving the control of my happiness over to things and people that were never intended to satisfy me – and could never fully satisfy me as long as I live. At some point this year, God worked in my life and took His rightful place on the throne of my heart where He belonged all along.
Most of my dreams and desires are even Godly ones. I dream of being a counselor & doing ministry alongside of a husband who loves the Lord. Like most girls my age, I dream of having a beautiful family. And these are all good, and even God given desires. But for far too long, these things were on the throne of my heart.
Thankfully, God has brought me to a place in relationship with Him, that even if these dreams never come true, my relationship with Him would still be enough.
These things no longer have power over me. They don’t dictate the decisions I make. And the fulfillment of them don’t own the rights to my emotions or happiness.
So this is why I’m single during the holidays, & I’ve found myself content.
This is why my best friend got engaged last night.. & when people look at me like a lost puppy & ask “how do you feel about that?”, I can honestly smile and in the core of my being feel nothing but completely happy for her.
Notice what Paul states in Phillipians 4:12:
“I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want”
Paul learned the secret to being content.. even when he was in want.
This statement tells me that you can still want. You can still be lacking. You can have desires within you that aren’t fulfilled. At the same time of finding 100% satisfaction and contentedness in Jesus.
He is all you need, my friends.
So if you’ve got the single holiday blues.. I urge you to examine your heart. Have you given this desire for a relationship power over you even though it can never satisfy you in the way you were created to be satisfied by the Lord? Search your heart and see what’s on the throne.
My advice is this..
Seek Him with everything in you.
If you don’t know Him.. Take this first step that will lead you into the most beautiful journey of your life.
And if you already know Him, dig deeper.
Seek His desires and plans for your life. Release all of the control over to Him.. His ways are higher than our ways & His thoughts are higher than our thoughts. His timing is perfect and His plans for you are flawless & go above and beyond any plans you could ever have for yourself. Trust in Him, for He loves you & his faithfulness is good. He is more than worthy of your trust.. He will never disappoint you or let you down.
Take a step back and look at everything going on in your life that you have to be thankful for. Look for the things in your life that will only be here during this season of singleness.. For those are the things you will miss & you will realize you took for granted once you move onto the next season you enter. Look for things to be thankful for.. You are surrounded by abundant blessings. Let your heart be a heart of praise and thankfulness.
My heart goes out to those with the single holiday blues. It’s painful to feel alone and in worry as you watch everyone around you enter into relationships, engagements, and marriages. My prayer is that you can also find the secret to being content in any and every situation.. Even in want. I pray that you begin a beautiful journey with the Lord where He proves to you and gently teaches you that He is more than enough.
“You, God, are my God, earnestly I seek you;
I thirst for you, my whole being longs for you, in a dry and parched land where there is no water. I have seen you in the sanctuary and beheld your power and your glory.
Because your love is better than life, my lips will glorify you.
I will praise you as long as I live, and in your name I will lift up my hands.
I will be fully satisfied as with the richest of foods; with singing lips my mouth will praise you.”