As you stood before me in your wedding dress.. (an open note to my future sister)

First of all, you look stunning in every way. You really did pick the perfect dress.

How honored I am to be chosen as a maid of honor. There is no other bridezilla in “all of the land” that I would rather be enslaved to for the next five months.

I guess I will admit that I have had fun being your maid. Helping with the guest list, helping find addresses, helping with save the dates, bridesmaids dress shopping multiple times, and of course, seeing you in your dress.

The day I went to see you try on “the dress” I knew it would be a fun day. What I didn’t know is that I would cry the moment I saw you in it.

I know that you saw me cry when you tried it on. But what you don’t realize is that each of those tears had a specific meaning behind them.

Something I have never told you, Kait, is that I have been praying for you since long before I knew you.

For as long as I can remember, I have been praying for the girl who would steal my big brothers heart.

I prayed that he would find someone who would really, truly love him for who he is – with all of their heart. I prayed that this girl would have a desire to serve him selflessly. I prayed that this girl would always remind him of who he is when he forgets. A girl who will love him through the good, the bad, and the ugly. Someone who would see past his rough exterior and know his heart. Most of all, I prayed that Alex would marry a woman who would love the Lord – someone who would push him to do what the Lord is calling him to do – someone who would be obedient to the Lord in their relationship with my brother- someone who would pray for him, believe in him, and encourage him in his faith.

You, Kaitlin, far exceed any and all of the prayers I have ever prayed for my brother.

So I want to say thank you. Thank you for loving my brother so fiercely, and so selflessly.

Something else that has been in my prayers for a while now is the relationship I would have with whoever would end up with Alex. So I want to also be sure to say thank you for making  a relationship with me important to you.

Growing up being the only girl had its perks, don’t get me wrong – but it was hard not having a sister. I always wished that I had one.

The day I met you I decided I would like you – even if I didn’t. I could tell that Alex felt something different about you. So I made our relationship important to us. I made a point to make you feel accepted in our family.

What I didn’t know is that you would become one of my very best friends.

When I met you, I was going through a new season in my life. I had just moved and was facing a lot of change. I really had no friends who lived in the same city as me. I prayed earnestly that God would send me a good friend. I didn’t realize it then, but looking back on it – he sent me you.

I am thankful for our hammocking and kayaking adventures. You are the exact kind of weirdo I need in my life. I will never forget our long talks after bible study each week. You asked me questions all the time in order to learn more about God, but at the end of it all, I think I learned just as much from you as you did from me.

Never will I forget our first fight & the way we chose to forgive and to value our relationship. We probably looked so silly sitting on the sidewalk on west main that day holding hands and praying over our friendship- but I think that is the moment you became my sister.

I also will never forget the day you asked me to baptize you – what an answer to prayer. And I already know I will never forget the day I have the honor of doing that as you give your heart to the Lord (go ahead and get the kleenex now).

I am doing my best to enjoy the next five months. It dawned on me a couple days ago that you moving to California in April means that you will not be living here.

I have mixed feelings about this. I think I will miss you even more than I realize now. But I am happy for you and Alex, and I am happy that that goodbye will really only be a “see you soon”! Plus, I can come to Cali and lay on the beach anytime I want, right?

So there it is.. now you have an idea of what all those tears mean. They are tears of everything joyful!

Because I very truly could not have asked for a better sister.

Thank you for being you, Kait.

And thank you for loving my brother.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s